There is an essential quality required for success in life. It’s not intelligence, good looks or even talent. It’s grit. What is grit? Grit is not the sandy grime at the bottom of your boots, it’s the ability to keep going—despite adversity—to overcome setbacks and rise again and again. It is the strength born from struggling to do something, to do anything and call it your own life. How do you get grit?
Modern writer Polly Campbell believes that grit comes from our passions. She writes, “Our passions are generally things that inspire us and drive us to improve. The learning process, therefore, becomes rewarding in its own right.” She suggests that when you are on a path that you’ve hewed out yourself, you are more likely to stick with it, to persist and to persevere.
Ralph Waldo Emerson called this Self-Reliance, and he wrote beautifully about it long ago, directing readers to get know themselves and find their own paths. He writes, “A man should learn to detect and watch that gleam of light which flashes across his mind from within, more than the lustre of the firmament of bards and sages.”
But what do you do when life sends you a tornado, a marathon bomber or an avalanche? These events knock you down, literally. They are the kind of setbacks that make you want to give up and live under a bridge (or take a desk job that you don’t believe in). But these are also the moments when you can decide to live an authentic life. If you aren’t living one already, it will become quite clear. You might want to throw in the towel, and maybe you should. But for people on the right path, it’s time to get gritty, to push on even when you feel like quitting. By staying the course, you’ll grow and get stronger. This is when you become a solid individual, a compassionate friend and a thoughtful community member.
For inspiration while soldiering on, Emerson wrote the beautiful essay, Compensation. On my own dark days, I’ve read it again and again. Emerson’s words have a way of lifting my mood, in the most challenging of circumstances.
When it’s all said and done, if I could give anything to a person, it would be grit. But grit can’t be given, it has to be earned.
Let everything happen to you: beauty and terror. Just keep going. No feeling is final.—Rainer Maria Rilke